Joleene Moody

Joleene Moody

Do you love going to work?

I’m going to guess no, because you’re reading this right now. You want out, but you don’t know how to do it. You have bills to pay and mouths to feed. It’s not like you can just give a two-week notice and walk out of hell and into your dream job, right? I mean, who does that?

Thousands of people do that every day.

Droves of unhappy workers trade in their desk and stapler for a shiny new career all the time. We just don’t see it because we’re too busy suffering eight to 10 hours a day at a job we don’t love, compromising ourselves spiritually, financially, and emotionally.

A Gallop poll revealed that 70 percent of U.S. employees are unhappy at work. Seventy percent is a lot of unhappy faces.

When you’re unhappy at work, you start a chain of events that become progressively worse the longer you stay behind the desk. Your life becomes miserable. And the misery doesn’t go away. You wait for it to, but it won’t. Not until you walk out the door.

Here are five things that happen when you stay in a job you don’t love, and the remedy of what to do to rid yourself of the misery
so you can live a genuinely happy life.

Your heart breaks
It’s a thin line between love and hate. When you have to wake up every day and go to a job you don’t love, that line between love and hate grows smaller. You start to question what life is all about. Is this it? Is this all there is; just a commute and a paycheck? This is what I signed up for?

Your relationships suffer
As you question life and your place in it, you become angry. Who do you take your anger out on? The ones you love. You’re not nice. You lash out at those closest to you because they’re standing right there. They take the brunt of your anger, until one by one your loved ones fall away and you find yourself alone.

You become mean and bitter
You’ve seen mean and bitter people out there. They hate the world and everyone in it. Now you’re mean and bitter. You snap at others and become hateful. When you see happy people you secretly plot their demise. It’s a horrible place to be.

You slowly die inside
You’re awake and you’re breathing. You put one foot in front of the other every day, but that doesn’t mean you’re living. Your suffering is causing you so much pain that you’re actually dying inside. Your joy is gone. But instead of taking actions to get out, you take actions that keep you stuck right where you are.

You blame everyone around you for your pain
When you’re stuck in a situation that makes you mean and bitter, you blame others for putting you there. But they didn’t put you there. You put yourself there. You made a series of choices that landed you where you are. If you want out, you have to take responsibility for yourself and take action to get out, bottom line. End of story.

You might be reading this thinking, ‘Working somewhere I hate isn’t ruining my life. That’s ridiculous.’ Perhaps, but here’s the deal: Human psychology says that we need to experience and fill six specific human needs in positive ways in order to feel fulfilled and purposeful. One of those needs is growth. Without growth, we die inside; just like I said. We walk around numb and uncertain. We just exist. Our lives become a circle of frustration. We go to work, come home, pay bills, go back to work, come home, pay more bills … and the cycle continues.

When the weekend comes, we think. “I’m saved!” When Monday comes, we think, “This sucks.” Where’s the joy? If we have to wait for the weekend to experience joy, what kind of life are we really living?

You have a right to love what you do and get paid for it. You don’t have to suffer working a job you don’t love. You tell yourself you do because the bills are piling up and your friends tell you it’s impossible to go after a passion or dream. Everyone else has to work a job they don’t love, so why should you be any different?

They must be right.

You’re scared, too. If you leave your job, you’re ditching your favorite security blanket. Plus there’s that whole, “How am I supposed to support myself and my family if I leave my job to go chase a dream?”

Have faith, baby; just a little faith. If you don’t have a drop of faith, you’ll always be stuck. You’ll always blame others. If you think faith isn’t part of the equation here, stop reading. This isn’t for you. This is only for those who are ready to reclaim their lives.

The remedy

You want out; really and truly? Decide to get out. No more fluctuating back and forth, telling yourself horror stories of what might happen when you quit. No more telling yourself that what you have is “enough” when you know darn well it isn’t.

This isn’t going to be easy. Nothing ever is. But you have a choice right here and now: You can continue to feel the pain of doing what you don’t love, or you can move forward feeling the joy-filled pain of doing something you actually do love.

Either way, it’s going to be uncomfortable. Either way, it’s going to be uncertain. But it’s worth every single awkward twitch and burn. Decide. Only you can put yourself where you truly want to be, no one else.

Be brave. Take the leap. You’ll land on your feet. You always have.

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NNY faces uncertain fallout from budget impasse

Visitors to the Liberty Bell in Philadelphia and other national parks will be shut out now that the federal government has partially shut down. Photo courtesy AP

Midnight was the deadline. But the impacts of the federal government shutdown may be felt in the north country long after partisan lawmakers failed to reach an agreement Monday night.

Some institutions will feel the impact almost immediately. Others, insulated by a layer or two, may suffer later. It all will depend on how long the shutdown continues, according to officials.

Employment training will be hurt immediately, according to Jefferson County Administrator Robert F. Hagemann III.

The Jeff-Lewis WorkPlace, 1000 Coffeen St., provides training to displaced workers. Because of the sequester, the agency received only 7 percent of its annual budget in the first quarter. It was due to receive the rest, 93 percent, today. Now, with the government shutdown, it will be able to spend only what it already has been given and will have to rely on the county for any extra funds, according to Executive Director Cheryl M. Mayforth.

That will affect the number of programs it will be able to offer to retrain workers in an area where the unemployment rate is higher than the state and national averages, Mrs. Mayforth said.

And while most county departments will not be affected directly by the shutdown, civilian furloughs on nearby Fort Drum could further constrain an already tight budget, according to Mr. Hagemann.

After basing part of its budget this year on continuing the trend of robust sales tax returns, the county is down in its projected intake. The continuation of the furloughs for an extended period could drop sales tax revenues even lower, Mr. Hagemann said.

The county is expected to receive more than $27.4 million in federal aid in 2013, though most of that is funneled through the Department of Social Services, which distributes benefits directly to recipients, according to Mr. Hagemann.

DSS Deputy Commissioner Teresa W. Gaffney said the department’s programs will be unaffected by the shutdown.

The county also receives $22.3 million in state aid, which may shrink if the shutdown continues and the flow of federal aid to New York begins to dry up, Mr. Hagemann said.

Other county departments that receive federal funds on a regular basis include the Highway Department and the Sheriff’s Department. They will remain largely unaffected unless the shutdown continues much longer than anticipated, according to senior staff.

It is also a waiting game for schools, hospitals, housing agencies and other organizations that receive federal funds.

Jack J. Boak, superintendent of the Jefferson-Lewis Board of Cooperative Educational Services, said any impact on Northern New York schools may come at a later date.

“We don’t anticipate any immediate impact,” he said. “It’d depend on how long a shutdown prevailed. If these things go on for a long time, it’ll be different. Whenever we have one of these anomalies, it’s always places that need money the most that get hurt the most.”

It would take time, he said, before schools’ free and reduced-price lunch program or any federal grants for schools for the new budget year would be affected.

Carthage Area Hospital Chief Executive Officer Adil Ameer said the hospital on West Street Road, Carthage, is working with Fort Drum, specifically with the MEDACC leadership, to “do whatever is necessary to facilitate and assist the troops and their families in meeting their health care needs.”

“We will continue to provide the highest quality care to all our patients, including our patients from Fort Drum, without compromising our service delivery,” Mr. Ameer said.

Meanwhile, the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development recently released a contingency plan for possible lapse in appropriations. Under the contingency plan, HUD will “continue to provide for the delivery of essential housing and emergency services for homeless persons and persons with AIDS to protect against imminent threats to the safety of human life.”

HUD also will continue to disburse Community Development Block Grant funds.

Michael C. Robare, executive director of the Watertown Housing Authority, said while a government shutdown will affect anyone who receives a federal subsidy, the agency is unsure of all ways it may be affected. One concern, he said, is if the online system for checking income eligibility is shut down, the Watertown Housing Authority will not have access to that information and won’t be able to complete new applications.

Even if the government approves a contingency plan, Mr. Robare said, he doesn’t know how long the agency can wait out the storm while operating with old figures. That becomes more difficult, he said, considering the cost of labor, materials, health insurance and other factors increase each year.

North Country Children’s Clinic Executive Director Daniel A. Wasneechak said despite the agency waiting for federal funds to avoid its own financial turmoil, he does not believe a shutdown will affect those pending payments to agency.

A call seeking comment to the state office of the U.S. Department of Agriculture was forwarded to the department’s national office, where a reporter was referred to the Office of Management and Budget. An email to that office was not answered Monday.

Similarly, a call to U.S. Customs and Border Protection was not returned Monday afternoon.

Although Jefferson Rehabilitation Center has four contracts on Fort Drum, totaling nearly $7 million, for work at dining halls, custodial care, Central Issue Facility and recycling processing center, Executive Director Howard W. Ganter said the agency will have no immediate impact from a federal government shutdown. Later on, he said, payment could be delayed. To put the issue in perspective, Mr. Ganter said, JRC and its 130 employees through those four contracts were not affected when furloughs were put in place.

Colleges have little to fear from a government shutdown, school officials said. Schools in the State University of New York system are funded by state and local governments and tuition fees, not the federal government.

The federal government does play a role in higher education through the provision of Pell Grants and student loans. Both of these are considered mandatory spending, which will not be affected by a shutdown.

Calls to a number of other agencies that could be at risk with a shutdown were not returned. Fort Drum Regional Health Planning Organization Executive Director Denise K. Young was out of the office Monday, and unavailable for comment.

A call seeking comment to Samaritan Medical Center was not returned by 4 p.m. Monday.

A call seeking comment to Cornell Cooperative Extension of Jefferson County Executive Director Kevin J. Jordan was not returned Monday.

A call seeking comment to Marie E. Ambrose, Head Start/prekindergarten director for the Community Action Planning Council of Jefferson County, was not returned Monday. Head Start already has experienced a 5 percent cut to its program, in which the Watertown-based agency had to cut two weeks from the Head Start school year.

-Dan Flatley, Rebecca Madden and Jacob Tierney, Watertown Daily Times

Temporary employees sought for training exercise at Fort Drum

A company assisting with battlefield training exercises for Army National Guard soldiers at Fort Drum is accepting applications to hire 100 temporary employees to serve as civilian role players from the Caspian Sea region.

Valbin Corp. will accept applications daily from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Fairfield Inn, 250 Commerce Drive, through Monday. Orientation for the positions will be on Wednesday, and the first day of work at Fort Drum will be Friday. The training exercise will take place seven days a week at the post through Aug. 25. Applicants must be at least 18.

Employees will be paid an hourly wage of $16.73 for 40-hour work weeks and $19.38 for overtime hours logged, said Jason N. Arisco, company recruitment specialist.

Role players will work anywhere from 10 to 12 hours a day. They will wear traditional attire and interact differently with soldiers, depending on training scenarios in 14 villages.

“People could be told to be friendly in one village, where you might have another with IEDs on the road and people who are hostile to the military,” Mr. Arisco said.

-Watertown Daily Times